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♥I’m inspired to do the 10 Day Challenge

Day One: Ten things you want to say to ten different people right now.
Day Two: Nine things about yourself.
Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.
Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.
Day Five: Six things you wish you’d never done.
Day Six: Five people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever)
Day Seven: Four turn offs.
Day Eight: Three turn ons.
Day Nine: Two smileys that describe your life right now.
Day Ten: One confession.

Love,

Hi there. September is here. I can’t believe it. Time fly’s by so quickly. Well it’s almost Fall. When I think of September I think of fall. So I’m going to lie to myself and pretend it’s still ‘summer’. We’ve been having some humid weather here in Toronto so it is- what it is.

This post was inspired by Twitter – #SeptemberWishes . However this post is to basically remind myself the changes that have happened so quickly in a month. I’m not going to take all the skeletons’ out of my closet. However I will post a few:

1. Finding out who your real friends are – and confront those that have an issue with you. I was able to confront a few people, and I felt proud of myself. I’m never going to sit back and wait…for things to just smooth over. I think it’s childish to play these little high school games. I’m an adult. I’ve grown up…and I can’t believe how many people have yet to face the real world.
2. Acceptation – accepting life for what it is. I can only do so much and then I leave the rest in God’s hands.
3. Growing up – Growing up means facing reality. The only way I can get to where I need to be is on my own. *I knew this since time – but the struggles I’ve gone through in August have pushed me to remember this*.
4. Knowing my own worth – I love myself. We are all gifts from God. We all are unique and we should embrace ourselves and our abilities and help those out there in the world. Just saying, “Good morning” to someone walking by in the morning can change your world and theirs. Doing more and learning more doesn’t hurt.
5. Making sure to find personal time – Just staying at home and watching movies is bliss. Just being by  myself helps me find myself. Also hanging out with real friends who I actually care about and I would hope care about me.

Sometimes I sit back and I ask myself and God – why are people like this? Why is the world so selfish? How can people treat others that way? The list is never ending with rhetorical questions it seems. But such is life.

Love,

Poem: September Changes

September is like no other
It’s days change color and weather
No other month can say quite the same
For every day, I can feel the change

It’s cool breezes start out warm,
Changing to cold throughout every storm
The leaves change and fall
As the Summer leaves and Autumn kisses us all

September maidens feel the change
Like the blue of the sky
Yet the color so deep
Unbelievable beauty

Maidens fall throughout and watch
Each raindropp changing through colors so fast
Yet one streak remains the same
Of that wonderful sapphire rain.

September, unlike any other
Holds you tight, in any weather.
Changes come, no matter where you go

North and you’ll get stormy snow
South and feel the heat of summer coming
September does this, no matter what.
Change lives within, Nothing to stop

September is beautiful
And awesome all the same
It’s hope for the future and the change
Comes swiftly as we sweep away

The Summer ends and the Autumn begins
Change is all around
With one maiden leaving
And yet, another comes

Born into the world
Of wonderful September
The sapphire skies live on
Through out this wonderful September

Jessica Millsaps

Three Words That Make Relationships Better

Three-Word Phrases, can be tools to help develop every relationship.

There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have soured.

The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

~    Let me help:
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

~  I understand you:
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know – in so many  little ways – that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.

~  I respect you:
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal.  If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends.  This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

~  I miss you:
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other “I miss you.”  This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.  Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say “I miss you.”

~  Maybe you’re right:
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument.  The implication when you say “maybe you’re right” is the humility of admitting, “maybe  I’m wrong”.  Let’s face it.  When you have an argument with someone,  all you normally do is solidify the other person’s point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you.  Saying “maybe you’re right” can open the door to explore the subject more.  You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.

~ Please forgive me:
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

~  I thank you:
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of  friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

~  Count on me:
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship.  It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating “you can count on me.”

~   I’ll be there:
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase “I’ll be there.” Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us.  We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

~  Go for it:
We are all unique individuals. Don’t try to get your friends to conform to your ideals.  Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you.  God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams.  Tell them to “go for it.”

~  I love you:
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person’s deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse,  your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words: “I love you.”  Love is a choice.  You can love even when the feeling  is gone.

Note: I did not WRITE this.

All n’ all my 2CENTs is: Communication is the Key.